What Men Really Want in Bed - No Dead Fish For Starters
So what do men really want in bed? Do you know what turns men on in general? More importantly, do you know what turns 'your' man on? If you want to pick up a few tips, then read on...
Okay, the first thing to ask yourself is, are you 'both' as happy today - in the bedroom department - as you were when you first met? Remember way back when (whether it was months or years even), when you were both excited just to be together, couldn't get enough of each other sexually and really got turned on by each other. You both wanted to touch each other all the time, in bed and out and oftentimes used to rip each others clothes off - remember that? Or is it something like a distant memory?
If you find yourselves 'making out' less than you used to, then that's okay. In fact it's absolutely normal. With the passage of time, how often you jump on each other is usually going to drop to a less explosive degree: let's say you used to make out every single night (sometimes more than once!) and now you make love say three times a week (the average for a normal relationship), whether you're married or not.
What is 'not' okay is if you went from having a wonderfully exciting and 'active' sex life to now having 'it' say once a month. This is 'not' good.
So what do men really want in bed?
Firstly, he wants sex. And he wants it more than once a month. As outlined above, think back to when you first met. Okay, you might not be able to manage the marathon sessions today (perhaps you have kids now) but you absolutely have to make an effort. So first thing, he wants sex, it's that simple. If you're not making out at least once a week, preferably a minimum of three, then you need to find the time and spend time with your man sexually.
Secondly and 'just as important', he wants you to enjoy your lovemaking. So many times guys (in confidence with therapists) will say they feel their wives or partners are like 'dead fish'. He wants some feeling, some expression from you, that you're actually 'there' with him. He doesn't want to be thinking, 'Oh God, she just wants me to get this over and done with' or 'I know she doesn't want this but I'm desperate, we haven't done it for weeks'. Guys actually experience this and it's incredibly sad. So to drive the point home, men hate 'dead fish' in the sack!
Your guy has every right to feel neglected, upset, used and more if the two of you had a wonderful physical relationship at the outset and now you could care less whether you make out or not. It's not right and it's not fair, to either one of you.
Lastly, he wants you to make an effort with your appearance. Again, go back to when you first met. You probably brushed your hair, spritzed some perfume on and even sometimes wore sexy lingerie. Well, give him a treat today. Does he no longer deserve type of attention from you? Just because you may have now been together for a while, take it from me, your man needs to be satisfied in bed. If he's not, he will (vast majority of men that is and I don't care what personality trait he has) start noticing other women as he's painfully aware of what he no longer gets at home.
So do yourself a favor (and your guy), take him back to when you first met. Give him what he wants in bed. Remember, he wants (1) sex, (2) no dead fish and (3) for you to make an effort. And if you want to shoot for his absolute favorite - well, that's oral sex of course. So now you know...
